If any gift comes with time, it’s the desire to live to the depths of my true self. I prefer to take up space rather than stay silent to keep the peace.

For me, not being palatable, but authentic has proven to be a personal and quiet revolution. Being a scapegoat is not a victim standpoint, it’s a statement of presence that can occur in various settings, such as politics, social dynamics, and interpersonal relationships. It is when someone is made to bear the blame for issues or failures that may not be their fault. This act can relieve stress, redirect anger, or maintain social harmony among a larger group by finding a common target.

Allowing others to “show up,” qwerky, spicy, blunt, or just a bit too much, is a part of the human experience. Part of that same human experience also includes understanding that we all land on the spectrum of narcissism. But when our interactions become entwined with those that are on the mid to higher levels on that spectrum of toxicity, the game of life becomes even more difficult.

What I know about life can fill a thimble, but I do know that when dealing with someone who carries even a middle ground of toxicity, it rocks your world from not only the inside out, but it shatters trust factors.

Being a main character in our lives is important when filled with self-awareness and empathy. Be who you are…the last thing we need is more conformists! If you don’t have haters…you’re not doing it right!

xx gail