It feels like three lifetimes ago when I started painting outside the lines. The image below was the first painting that I created, it was a nod to children’s coloring book pages as the chosen subject, and it started a lifetime love affair with this desired expression, painting with pure abandonment.
This child-like expressionism was very important to me for many reasons. Mainly because I needed to drop all of my preconceived notions of how art is and was to be made. Along with its ideals of perfection, and any specific techniques, as I reflected back to a point when placing the color on a coloring book page, which was as innocent and free as an idealized childhood.
I still paint outside the lines, as I also listen to others, on what is being said outside or between the lines. Listening and feeling (a true empath), for the true subtext of what is being said and unsaid.
I feel that my life has been, and still is, an amazing, long journey of self-awareness. Slowly, the pieces come together, as I start to see this incredible mosaic that is my life, and how even the most insignificant moments add to its texture and depth. Cheesy, but so true!
Here is a huge life hack, peeps! The keys to life are simple, and it has been written hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of times by so many. You can choose to be aware or choose to stay unaware.
Choosing to be aware means that you choose to feel and embrace your emotions over manipulating others. And if you’re really lucky, life will put you through tons of shit, this is unavoidable. But those moments will become your greatest gifts. This is the point where your shadow meets the light; that is your true purpose in life: to discover the deepest and darkest part of who you are and be okay with it. So that you no longer pretend to be living an illusion or delusion. You’re 100% living in acceptance of yourself, first!
Manipulators are hungry for attention and control. Feelers who have done the work to secure boundaries and stop people pleasing are also known as super empaths or sigmas, even lone wolves. They liberate themselves from old patterns. They can embrace their superpower to see beyond others’ masks and question the narrative. This is the reason why I named this digital journal “Read The Fucking Room.” For the longest time, when I walked into spaces, I could feel the presence of others very strongly and would pick up on their true intentions. I could “read the room,” and this ability has plagued me like a curse, never understanding how others could not see what seemed so obvious to me.
Being a disruptor and calling people out for their true intentions has not always been in balance. It took me a long time to learn to observe and not react. I’m still not 100% there, nor do I ever think I will be. But awareness and personal growth allow one very important ingredient, discernment.
This awareness of other people’s intentions is not instant, it may take a couple of meetings before I completely see it. But a vibe is always there at the beginning. I don’t feel that this awareness is exclusive; many have this skill. Most doubt it, or just choose not to recognize the importance of this needed insight. But once you do embrace it, life is never the same. You switch from supply to threat.
Feelers want to understand others, while manipulators need to control and thrive off of others being in a state of emotional confusion. Don’t fight harder to understand them, or be heard; feelers, sigmas, and super empaths understand that it is not about winning the game; they end the game by going neutral, or walking away!
xx gail
12 responses to “Listening Outside the Lines!”
Yah people, read the room! Or in this case read the fing room.com (heheehehe)
Very good post, my favorite…Empaths understand that it is not about winning the game; they end the game by going neutral, or walking away!
Very good.
Awesome. Love this!
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Love your presepective!
So true! Well written!
True outsider myself.
Loving these posts!
For so long I listened to the words that people would say, versus watching their behavior. One of my biggest lessons in life was watching what is being done, not what is being said. Huge cautionary statement, when someone states, “you misunderstood.” I feel empathy masked as deflection.
Thank you for sharing your great insight Teagan.
So much is said, between the lines. One needs to be hypersensitive to body language and overall way “they” carry themselves. Most toxic manipulators say one thing, but do the opposite.