Life for many is strategic. While some see it as a chess match, I see it as more of a dance, flowing between moments of when you need to lead and times when you need to follow.

As you move with that flow of life, you need to be aware of the importance of that needed seduction, a dance one might say.

I find it to be the most important missing ingredient in life. A seduction helps break us free from the monotony of life. A seduction, as an objective…is preferred by marketing professionals and power brokers, and of course, applied in romance. Many use this art to play the game of life as though it’s all about “the win,” with the constant objective to conquer and control. For me, I’m all about the “art of seduction.” So, how do I apply it in my own life? Daily and with every aspect of life. From selecting or hand-preparing the meals I eat. To selecting the clothes I wear, to the choices of style and placement of objects that I live with.

I do not live, in anything high-end, I have little to no labels of clothing options to wear, and as a designer, I have nothing I own in my home from a high-end showroom.

Treat yourself as you would someone you truly loved. Providing it with attention and care. Everything I touch I feel, truly represents me. I do not live a copy-and-paste lifestyle. This to me is all about self-seduction. Diving deep into self-comfort and embracing the light and the dark. Because no matter what I have been through, I was the one picking up the pieces. I find that when caring for and supporting myself, that neediness to look for that in others fades.

But, for whomever I find special in my life, he then becomes my chosen recipient, receiving an extension of what I have already created for myself. That’s the really fun part!

As far as personal connections, yes, I apply it, subtly and sparingly. When I meet people, I truly enjoy getting to know them. Seeing how they walk in the world, and what makes them happy. This form of seduction unfortunately is rare these days. With so many needing to hawk for “likes” and attention on social media platforms. Most, truly do not understand the basics of forming a connection with others, such as being interested in what others say and do.

But, as much as I enjoy meeting people. I’m extremely comfortable with my boundaries. I need, and, I’m all about being transparent and fair. If I learn that the respect I give, is not a two-way street, and manipulation, deception, and covert agendas, are now front and center. Then it’s game on! The dark side is now in play! Though I’m not a bully, I’m very comfortable letting the other players know where I stand, and I’m not here to take their shit.

So, what’s the point here? Well, it’s about taking that same principle, in this case, a “seduction,” and seeing how it’s applied in very different concepts and applications with others. It can be used as a good thing or a bad thing. This now brings me to the point that everything has a light and dark side, yin or yang, victim or villain.

I learned very early in my life about perception and how off, it can be. What one sees and hears, another can see and hear the complete opposite. I have wished for a long time that we all could walk around with some sort of parental guidance or warning label attached. So that we are free to be who we are, but at the same time, be very aware that there is a label to help guide us with the needed insight and direction for the proper interaction.

Unfortunately, that is not the case, so we’re left to intuitively guide ourselves. Dodging and weaving our way through the uncharted waters of other people’s emotional stuff.

But no matter how many years of basic training as a human I put in, being exposed to “other people’s emotional trauma,” I still get shocked and disappointed, and I don’t think that will ever change, especially as an empath.

Empath, kind of a strange word. Yes, I get it, it’s all about being oversensitive and in connection with how others feel. But let’s get real here; remember, this is a no-filter zone! This is a word that was created for trauma-related backgrounds. My life experience with “playing with others” I have experienced the severe opposite of those on the trauma spectrum. On one side, you have the empath (sensitive to others), and then the opposite end of that spectrum, those who are completely and callously removed from any type of sensitivity for others and animals. Their agenda in life is all about conquer and control. A thought process of its kill-or-be-killed mindset.

Being a huge YouTube fan, I came across this video by L I G H T, and it was the first time, I had ever heard someone articulate this same perspective so well, and it was quite enlightening. To hear another, share a story from her Father, regarding how the perception of let’s say, two people can be so drastically different from others. How both can be equal, but be perceived so differently.

Life!

xx gail